She can get frustrated all she wants, Thats showing her immaturity tbh.

As for her being Borderline? Sure she might be.. not all cases are cut and dry black and white

But the reality is... no you cant hold her past abuse over he head forever... but for her to expect you to just move forward without being wary isn't fair to you.

if she isnt willing to allow you the time you need to feel secure and trust that she has a handle on whatever it was that caused her to act that way... Well then ... maybe she isn't the right one for you.

Take. Your. Time