Supanova, I’m going to assume that while your post came across as judgmental and over-bearing to me, that was not your intention. I’m going to assume that you have a genuine desire to help me, and that you didn’t mean to be hurtful. However, I feel I have to make a few points as I feel that you have crossed some boundaries.


You may be offering me advise based on your personal experience, but I have to wonder if much of what you are writing is more about your own situation than it is about mine.


You make some very valid points and I would have a much easier time taking them in if they were not so steeped in judgement. Your tone (whether or not you intend this) comes across as very repressive and over bearing to me.


I do feel a little bullied by your posts. I can take it and give it right back, but my fear is that people lurking who are timid, may see this and be afraid to post. If they fear intolerance and judgment, it is likely that they will no feel safe to post here.


Yes, “violating Human Rights” is “against the law.” It’s against the law because it is wrong and unjust, not because of some technicality that I’m exploiting.


The fact that my work arena is a barn is irrelevant. I could just as easily have been posting as a waitress, a gas attendant or a social worker.


The facts are these:


-It is a human rights violation to discriminate against someone with a disability.

-I did full disclosure before I was hired and was very frank about my weaknesses

-an agreement was made and I started

-the agreement was arbitrarily changed after I started in a way that exploited my weakness and set me up for failure

-I asked for accommodation which they are legally obligated to provide up to the point of undo hardship

-there was no hardship but they refused to accommodate


When I made this post I asked for opinions. I did not ask for judgements. Imputing motive (declaring my intention to be vindictive) came across to me as judgmental.


Implying that by standing up for myself and what is right, I will somehow be responsible for other disabled persons not getting hired in the future is unfair.


You need to know that I am not taking down any place, and am certainly not powerful enough to shut down this barn and throw the disabled kids out on the streets. Nor would I want to!


I’m confused by the fact that on one hand you think my case is too weak, but on the other hand you think I have enough power to ruin them.


If I do this (and I haven’t decided yet-it’s why I’m on here posting about it) it is something that will be between me, the Human Rights Tribunal, the GM of the agency (the one at fault) and her board of directors. It’s not like I’m going to campaign and call the news to try to get them shut down.


Also, if I do this, I’m aware that it won’t benefit me or them in any way. It may benefit the next person who works there, or it may benefit all of us as a community, as workplaces learn that they can’t get away with discriminatory behaviour, and they learn to be more compassionate and tolerant. If nobody challenges these things, then nothing changes and the status quo remains.


Now, that said, once I took a step back (because you really P*ssed me off) I could see that you make some valid points and I will certainly consider them. There’s some good advice in there :-)


I also really appreciate that you took the time to read my post and then to comment. I really do. I believe you when you say you are trying to help me and I thank you for it.


I had to let you know how I feel though.