I'm sorry to hear about your problems with your parents. Some parents just don't seem to get that they would be better off helping their children figure out for themselves what is best for them.

Billy Graham said that "the best way to help your children succeed in the world is to figure out what they like to do, and encourage them to do it".

But all that is still secondary to the question, "do we have free will?" You appear to agree that we either have free will, or the illusion of free will. What makes you so sure it's an illusion?