My understanding and concern go out to you - I would also be pissed! It sounds like my husband - when I am having a bad day and ask my T to call me and he calls when my husband is home hubby gets all in a huff because I went to T for help instead of to him. In addition to that he does not work - said he would do housework for me (I work long hours and come home exhausted every day) but so far I am still waiting. Finally when I could not stand the mess any longer I vacuumed myself and when I told my T that he told me it is not my job - it is his - and I am not to do it again or hubby would continue to take advantage of me. Makes me SO ANGRY so I understand about men who don't do what they are supposed to do to help us