I recently read that when someone thinks the world revolves around them-- it's being narcissistic... it said that when one thinks things ARE-- or happen-- because of them.

well, then I'm wondering...
been told I tend to have "ideas of reference"-(I think that's what it's called)-- where if something bad happens and I'm nearby then I'm to blame..... like if a crane is doing work outside a building and I'm in the building-- and then the crane crashes a part of the wall of the building-- I feel it was my fault-- I feel guilty-- like if I wasn't there it wouldn't have happened. so.... I'm confused if this is narcissistic or is it ideas of reference or could it be both?

anyone have any thoughts or answers to this?-- I'd appreciate it.

thank you,
mandy ps-- might take me a bit to reply back, as my computer is out being fixed(fingers crossed), and I only have limited time when borrowing this one.....