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Where it comes from? I'd say having OCD has a role, but also an abusive family member had his part.

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You bet. Excessive apologising is not crazy, it's a learned behaviour pattern. In my case it was to try to placate a parent who could never be placated because they wanted to hurt me. It's a no win situation, and unfortunately the effects carry on long after the parent is dead and gone.

These days I think it's like Buddhist Karma left by the cruel person, or as one psychologist said, the cruel person dies but they leave a bad smell behind them.

It would be funny if it wasn't so sad. How could we believe that we could make a cruel person less cruel by apologising too them? It's laughable.