"If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster." ~Ben Stein

Were I in your position, I would take umbrage that she doesn't want to wait around for you when she has been the one with the behavioral issues. It does not sound like she has matured enough to "get it" that marriage is a partnership and making demands on the other is not how it best functions. I would move on. Loving a marriage partner means you've got their back, not that they have yours.