Hello. I know a bit about DID and I have just made a new friend with this disorder. I can tell she is really having a hard time but she doesn't respond when I offer to help her in any way. She says she has as many as 30 alters and that she was severely abused as a child. She says she has a good therapist but that therapy is painful. I know she is struggling with just paying bills and eating properly. She doesn't live far from me. I am new in the area and have my own financial and mental health struggles, which she is aware of, but nothing at all like what she is going through. We've met in person twice and emailed back and forth a few times. I'm not sure how to proceed with the relationship. Is it OK to ask about her alters and who is present or should I just try to learn as I go? I'm very worried I'm going to talk as though I'm with an adult and then turn out I'm with a teen or a child. She seems to have 2 who are dominant, are adults, and aware of each other (the two I've met) but she has also mentioned many others. I really want to be her friend. I don't want to act disinterested. I don't want to invade her privacy. One alter I met is very upbeat. The other is struggling to survive. And those are the only two I've met. Any advice would be very appreciated. Thank you.