I guess I don't know much about all of this...less about about narcissism. Not sure at what point thinking that world revolves me turns into narcissism...I think a lot of people view the world through their eyes and how everyone around the effects their lives as opposed to how we may effect others...

Hadn't heard of "ideas of reference"...I know I feel a lot of times things are my fault...though I'm usually part of relationship...in your example...I may have contracted with crane company or signed the contract or something like that...so i guess I haven't really expereinced that...

Sorry I'm not much help