i am not really sure either. i have tried not to put too much focus on sexuality personally as it can be a real trigger...not sure if it's a trigger to me, one of my others....but i also don't know where 'i' am with it either since it can be either or no way...so i try not to think about it all or it causes stress. i just look at it as being what it is when it is how it is..if that makes sense.