thanks gardenergirl for posting that info.

first.... let me get back to Fuzzy, referring to "projection"-- I found this:-- PROJECTION--" is a defense mechanism in which one attributes to others one’s own unacceptable or unwanted thoughts or/and emotions. Projection reduces anxiety by allowing the expression of the unwanted subconscious impulses/desires without letting the ego recognize them."
-- except in my case I think it increases anxiety-- so maybe in those instances it's not projection....??.... am I getting more confused??!

I think I understand gardenergirl-- that if a thought/action "inflates" ones self it's narcissistic-- but since my reactions and thoughts do the very opposite, then it must not be narcissistic..... I guess that's what it means.

whew-- have to go take a break-- this "heady" stuff is making my mind feel dizzy!

thanks for your help.

gardenergirl-

mandy