Thanks so much for all of this insight. I don't know about the amnesia thing. There's so much I don't know.

This gal (M/K) is in her 30's and I am in my 50's, so I feel protective toward her. I wouldn't be offended by an alter I might meet and I'd like to reassure her about that. I think K has been cut off or has cut herself off from people because she has such a hard time coping with her alters. Except she has one very outgoing alter (M), and that's the one who actually arranged the Meetup for women with depression/anxiety where we first met and gave not a hint about her DID or that there were any other alters. At the next Meetup, she seemed different, something very sad in her eyes. I asked if something was wrong and she said she had DID. I told her I knew a bit about it from reading on this board and encouraged her to talk and she talked quite a bit. I asked her who was here today and she said it was K, not M. I asked if K and M knew each other and she said yes and that they were the ones mostly in charge and that M was was extroverted and up beat.

I would really like to get together with her one on one because at the Meetup there was an older lady (B) who thought every topic should lead to her and she kept stealing the conversation from poor K as she was trying to tell us how upset she was about losing her visitation time with her son. I'm afraid B is going to always be like this and K/M will just clam up because she will feel like nobody cares. I asked my daughter to come to our next Meetup and help me keep B from verbally running everybody over! B has some significant issues of her own which are a trigger to my past trauma, so I am not the person to try to be helpful to B! I want to befriend M/K.

I'm very grateful for all of the insight you have given me. I'm going to keep at this!

P.S. I'm not on this forum as much as I used to be because I am coping with benzodiazepine withdrawal syndrome. I got over-prescribed a benzo by a psych nurse and became addicted. Now I have a psychiatrist who helping me get off. It's been the hardest thing in my whole life. But, this psychiatrist has been helpful and I'm starting to get my brain back and function better! I spend a lot of time on benzobuddies now. Wow, there is a world of hurting people over there, but also a wealth of information, information that has literally saved my life.

But, thanks for your help and I will be checking back! (If my benzo brain's memory can find this page! Ha ha! Kind of kidding, kind of not!)