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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
Sure, therapeutic relationships are weird, illogical, and all over the place. What concerns me is that the situation already has you kind of dependent on this woman and seeking her approval. It may not be her fault, but it's clearly causing you problems, and if she does take you on you're already in a pattern of pleasing her instead of looking to help yourself.
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Understood, and great point. I think I am pursuing it because, believe it or not, this is actually the least "people pleasing" therapy relationship I've ever been in. She was aware from the get-go that I have a tendency to make people happy at all costs, and so she's been SUPER good at keeping her personal preferences hidden. She has actually been amazing at trying to keep the focus on me, and redirects every time I try to find out about her, or about what she wants to stay happy. (Which is obviously why it is driving me crazy)
So, I guess the reason I am confident about this is because she has set great boundaries already, and although they are currently very difficult for me, I think they might be the best thing in the long term.
What I'm saying, very horribly, is that the problems are with me, and not with her.