There is a medical term for this my best friend suffers the same symptoms. I think its PMDD. She sees an MD for meds and tries really hard to control it. Unfortunately it can only be managed not controlled. She doesn't live with her SO and once a month they break up and he goes back to his house and she won't take his calls and once the week is over everything is fine. I have no advice sorry. I don't believe she means what she says but maybe taking a "talk about it " break when you see it coming on and staying apart within your home? Idk.... sorry..