Nuttya - I agree with a lot of the advice that people have given already. I think it can be so valueable and important to find some way to take time for yourself and develop a personal interest. This is especially helpful if it is a physical activity such as going to the Y like you mentioned.

I have been going through an extremely painful time with my husband. We were in couples therapy for almost two years. During that time, my T never directly recommended staying together or not, and it does sound like your T was just helping you explore options rather than saying you should make a decision to leave your DH. By having some alone time you will probably be able to get a sense of what being without your current husband would be like and also just give you some time to actually think without the responsibility of watching your children.

My husband and I are getting a divorce and though it is extremely painful and difficult I'm glad I at least had taken a few small steps, with T's help, to have some alone time to prepare myself. Either way, no couple can spend all their time together.

Good luck and we're hear to listen