all my alters had their own jobs, purposes reasons for being. what this meant was they were different in all kinds of ways from me (the aware self) I had alters that were all kinds of orientations and sexual preferences. some quite dangerous and bordering on harmful. this did not mean mine nor theirs were not real.

let me explain something about me and my system...
I was born one whole person
then underwent extreme trauma
this trauma caused me to use my dissociative skills
the use of my dissociative skills caused my brain to create alternate personalities to handle triggering and abusive events, emotions, memories... in short function completely on their own with their own jobs purposes reasons for being.

because of this separation in identities through dissociation each of my alters orientations and preferences were dictated based on their jobs, purposes, reasons for being created...

example if an alters job purpose reason for being created was to have sex with women that alter was a lesbian, if an alters job purpose reason for being created was to have sex with men that alter was heterosexual. the same worked with dealing with types of intimate activities.

I the aware self was lesbian but when my alters integrated it took a bit of sorting out because I ....attracted... to all that the alters were. but when it came down to the actual intimacy I was still a lesbian.

the way my wife and I worked this out was we went to couples therapy and took our time in rediscovering everything during our intimate times together. just like normal couples do we discussed a lot, we tried all kinds of things and kept what worked and let go of what didnt. on the more edgy situations that we kept we added boundaries and rules like having a safe word that both my wife and I would remember to use when and if we reached a point where either of us needed to stop.

my suggestion is contact your or a treatment provider in your real time location. they can help you to discover what your orientations are and how to best handle having alters of conflicting orientations.