I've only been seeing T for 4 months now. I'd say 50% of the time it's productive. The first several sessions were split btwn talking about history and ex-T. That wasn't very productive for me. I didn't get enough time to deal with ex-T and the history, though it helped her, didn't help me. And then we keep having misunderstandings. I think we have spent more time working on our relationship than we have put into my issues, and I don't consider that productive. But some sessions have been good and really helpful. I haven't had difficult sessions minus our miscommunication ones.