You aren't an attention *****. Wanting to feel like someone really cares about you isn't a problem. Everyone craves attention. I don't think the fact that you want to be controlled is a problem. I'm sorry that your husband doesn't seem to understand or care about your needs and cravings. Maybe it is something that he will never understand. In my life I have noticed that some people will never accept things simply because of the fact that they don't understand them.

It's good that you love your husband and don't want him to hurt anymore. Maybe this is something that you two can work on together. Who knows?

Nothing that you have said sparks an awful problem. I just think that this is something that you and your husband are going to really have to talk about.

I hope that everything works out!