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Originally Posted by Rosebud1963
Long story.
My ex and I divorced 6 yrs ago after he cheated. I never stopped loving him but I remarried he also remarried (same girl he cheated with). I'm now divorced again and started hanging out w my ex because of our kids. This started us having an affair after 6 years apart..He knows however I still love him and he says and I believe he cares about me and is very attracted to me. I want more and he says he can't just leave his wife because of guilt. I stress him out by always asking for help advice ect. I don't want to push him away but I cont. too nag, as he says. I feel I'm just looking for hope. What I don't understand is why he cont. to let our affair go on if I stress him out so much and he feels so guilty toward both us. What brought us back together (meaning the affair) was when I went through my 2nd divorce he helped me leave my 2nd husband who was an pill addict. He started off helping me because of our kids but that is what brought us close again and the affair started. I feel to weak to end it but I know if he cared he wouldn't put me through this.
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I had an affair with a married man
for 14 years. He is a theologian/ evangelist
which I think made things worse...His profession
was getting in front of Christian audience and college
classrooms and preaching about God.
He had 3 kids.
I brainwashed myself into believing that after
his kids were grown, he would leave her.
Guess what?
He followed his oldest daughter off to college
to go teach and preach at her Christian school.
During her freshman yr of college his wife found out
about our affair. Next.. the Administration.
I thought for sure he would get fired, get divorced
and stay with me.
I found out a year later.. the reason why his
boss did not fire him:
Because his boss was caught having an affair, too.
My married boyfriend..is still married to his wife.
I have come to the conclusion that he married a dumb
blonde, got tired of her after 10 yrs of marriage,
and had an affair with me for the next 14 yrs.
That's right..not 14 months...14 yrs.
It is pretty easy to do when you work at the same
place...I.am a Professor.
I have also realized that people who are married
and cheat? They have no respect for themselves
or their partner.
Men compartmentalize. He put his wife in one
container, and me in another.
He kept us separate at all times.
Let him stay married to his wife.
Let them reap all the rewards of their toxic marriage.
My advice to you?
Exes are exes for a reason.
Leave this guy in the dust.