Patience is key even in a time of distress just like this. Ive been there before and its literally like clock work it was the same fight and doubts coming from her and i almost gave in and agreed but thankfully i didn't. I decided to look for the signsfrom her and would approach it with caution but subtle messages in showing her all the reasons why it doesnt have to go that route but also not smothering her at the same time but you could feel her out. Its not easy but just remember is it wirth it and if so then do whatever it takes to reassure her