You need to give yourself some time away from him and search your heart and soul to see what you are really doing. You need to put your life, first. I've always told myself that I would never cheat, it has been done to me and I would never do that to someone else. You need to make up your mind to let your ex go AND then find a way to go on with your life. If at sometime down the road, your ex divorces his current wife, wait and see if he comes back to you. Remember, you are hurting his wife and she doesn't deserve that from you. You need to think about this and then do the right thing for yourself and his current wife and your children. Don't continue this affair just to take revenge on his wife for taking him from you. My advice to you, is to run like the wind and get away from him. Also, remember if your kids know that you are meeting with their father...it would break their hearts when he ends the affair to be with his current wife.

If I hurt your feelings, I am sorry....think of yourself and your kids, first.