I'm really new here, but I like the idea of this thread. I honestly believe both males and females share more in common in this area than they think. Although they(we?) always seem to think our perspectives and perceptions are so drastically different. So here it goes.. bare in mind that my own opinions and statements may be pretty different from others, but I see a lot in common with yours.

1.) I've often thought men were unattainable because they were better looking or in a position of power. I think this is partly a self-esteem issue and partly a natural yearning to be equals with a partner. I don't think anyone wants to feel inferior- that's not to say some people of either sex don't like to feel submissive or dominant. Simply that they don't want to feel like less of a person because of who they are with. Make sense?

2.) I've walked away without saying a word because I didn't feel good enough, or "in the same league"

3. - 5.) I think these 3 points have more to do with the interpretation of others signals. Individually a smile or friendly gesture can have different meanings. I try to never assume that a person is interested in me based a smile, because I've misinterpreted this myself. Thinking someone is hitting on you because they flash a smile, only to find out it was only meant as general politeness/kindness. I've had men assume that because I was being polite or kind with a smile that I was interested in them, when that was not the case.

6.) Hugs... now those can be hard to decipher lol. I don't have many friends but the few I do have I hug every chance I get. I think trying to read hugs comes down to both body language and simple discussion. People seem to press their whole body against someone they're hugging out of desire, but more casually and loosely when it's based on friendship. If you're not sure ask (not at all easy, I know) Talk about what seems like the most awkward of conversations.. " Were you hugging me because you want me, or just as a greeting of friendship?"

Hope some of my rambling helps.. I know you're post has kind of answered a question of my own. I always wondered if most guys just assumed that when a girl smiled she was interested. Thank you for proving that point wrong!!