
Aug 20, 2015, 04:40 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2015
Location: Canada
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Originally Posted by Red75
Yes, sorry, my post was a muddle. Didn't want to trigger anyone, also didn't want to suggest that something had happened...though it did...
In my therapy, when I talk about stuff that happened when I was younger with a much older family friend, a couple of times my T has called me out for being manipulative (she does it v nicely!) because, basically, I know that what I'm saying happened is abusive, but I say that it's not. Now I'm so worried that by asking what is obviously a stupid question that I know the answer to (except I don't  ) she will call me on it again, and I don't know if I can cope with that.
So maybe what I'm saying is, you're right, I have to be manipulative to get a need met, and that need is for someone to tell me the truth until I can hear it. But I feel so fragile about it, I can't cope with having to defend myself...
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I don't think it's about manipulation. In terms of CSA there is so much confusion and I think that needing reassurance is normal.
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