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Aug 20, 2015, 10:45 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2015
Location: Canada
Posts: 2,680
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
Therapists generally won't visit or call clients in hospital unless they are a part of the treatment team (have privileges).
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When I talk about her not answering my text from the hospital, I am not talking about inpatient psych but about when I was in there for surgery. She had ASKED me to text her after the surgery.
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am not trying to defend your former therapist at all in the following text.
A former friend that I met in hospital wanted a lot more than I could ever provide. He called me whenever he was in hospital and only when he was there or when he was intoxicated. I tried to develop a friendship outside of the psychiatric world, but I wasn't successful. Eventually, I told him that I needed to part ways, because I couldn't cope with visiting him in hospital. The hospital triggered me, because I had terrible experiences in there. It was all I could think about. I didn't dislike the man at all, I just couldn't cope with his issues and the hospital. - My point is that sometimes people make tough decisions because they are hurting themselves and cannot provide support or their behavior is hurting another person. Is it possible your former therapist was in a similar situation? I sensed this in your letter.
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I think the difference between your story and mine though is that she was my therapist... I mean, our relationship should have been in control enough that my safety was at least considered a priority. It's different in a friendship. Plus everything was "fine" and then all of a sudden she hurt me when I was physically ill. She could have waited. It hurts that she didn't seem to care about my wellbeing at all after promising if I trusted her she wouldn't hurt me like that. Plus, our whole relationship was initiated by her. The only time I asked her outright for support was at the end in the hospital (not the psych hospital, I had just had my gallbladder out) and I was panicking because I had a complication where I couldn't pee for 2 weeks. With the exception of emails ("you can never send me too many emails, you express yourself so well in writing,") everything was initiated by her, every phone call or appointment.
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Why do you feel responsible for her decisions? She made those poor decisions, not you. Why do you punish yourself for them?
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I feel like I was too dependent and that's what caused this. I'm afraid I look borderline.
Last edited by PinkFlamingo99; Aug 20, 2015 at 11:36 AM.
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