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Old Aug 20, 2015, 10:50 AM
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Originally Posted by whatisthishere View Post
Hello,

I dont know if this fits here or if it a mental issue or not but this is a explaination about some recent things I have had to experience.

So, I go to CVS to buy some hair clippers and something to shave my face with because I just moved to this new area and left my shaving stuff behind. Now I am wearing a white tshirt, pants I cut with scissors to make them shorts and socks with slippers. I have a mustache and gotee etc. I walk in the store and immediately am asked if I need help finding something which I did because I have never been to that CVS before so I asked where I could find hair clippers. So then the guy looked supprised when I asked him that and appeared to become a little bit nervous about something and he went to say that he wasnt sure where the hair clippers would be. So I said okay and started looking around the store to find hair clippers and then I found them in the middle of the second isle right in front of where the guy was who asked me if i needed help finding something. I thought about it for a while and just came to the conclusion that maybe it was his first day or something, who knows? Well, I overheard him asking someone else if they needed help since I was close by etc. and the guy asked him where he could find hairclippers haha. I was thinking good luck buddy since I asked the guy the same thing and he didnt know. Well, the spoke diffrently to him with a little more respect and told him that the hair clippers are down isle 2 sir and something else down isle that sir and can i assist with anything else today sir? So, I wasnt happy about that but owell. So the guy is walkijg down the isle and i am reading the box of hairclippers in my hand. He starts looking at the hairclippers and I thought maybe I could strike up a conversation since we both buying hairclippers so I just simply stated "buying hairclippers" in a well nothing alrming you know. The guy looked at me like he saw ghost and then walked out of the store. I though okay well maybe i did something wrong? Man idont know, so I just stopped worrying about it because I was being nice and i dont know human haha trying to talk with people. So I get in line with few more people everything is cool except for the cashier dude keeping his eye on me for some reason then I realized I need batteries so I look for batteries which were right in front of the pharmacy for some odd reason. As I am walking up to the pharmacy to pick out batteries one pharmacist approaches the little desk thing they stand at just looking at me walking down the isle. I though well wierd that he staring so hard but maybe he thinks I have a prescription to fill or something. I get up there and picking out my batteries the pharmacists is watching me pick out batteries so i had my hand on a pack of batteries then looked up at the pharmacists .. he was staring at the batteries in my hand so i said "how are you?" You know breaking up this unecessary tension. Well, he looked at me for a few seconds then turned and spoke some words into another pharmacists ear so I just thought mayhe they were gay and walked back up to the counter to pay for my stuff. I got up there and the guy who left the store earlier was in line and so i just got in line behind him. He looks back for split second and then inhales deeply and exhales loudly. So i looked over at him like what the **** is wrong with guy? he didnt see but the cashier looked really serious. So something wasnt right and i felt like all eyes were on me so i held my bateries and hair clippers in front of me like i would have held my lunch tray hack in high school in order to maybe dye down the unecessary tension. Then i noticed the guy who was puffing had his wallet in his hand behind his back and was moving it in a back and forth waving movement like here it is take it. Im looking at it like what the **** ? Is this guy crazy someone could just snatch out of his hand right? Looked back up and now there is two cahiers both just looking at me haha so i think i know what was going on so i just smiled and shook my head at then for few seconds .... paid $60 for my stuff and left. I get out in the parking lot and the dude who walked earlier who came back to wave his wallet around was in his car talking to two other dudes who continuosly though it was appropriate for them to stare at me like i just stole what i had in my hands.haha well, it was stressful for me because it felt like i was being judged based on my appearence which would make sense, i think.to me non of that matters so i only judge people based on conversation and even then you still dont know who they really are. It seemed like i was beeing profiled. So I got home and thought man that sucked maybe i should just wear a suit and tie everywhere i go around here to avoid being treated like a criminal. Funny thing about that is is that I worked at a maximum security prison for one year and i dont even have tickets on my record haha well i dont like conforming to illiteracy so i decided to continue to wear what i want wear and be nice like everyone else should be.
What do you guys think?
maybe they were just trying to figure out who the new guy was and waving the wallet was just a habit the guy had.

when ever I go to a new town or city to visit i get stared at, that in itself makes me mis interpret everyones body language as what its not. one day after noticing a woman clutching her purse as she walked by me and a few others staring at me like i had some deadly diseases I decided you know what lets break the ice. I touched my hair and said I just colored my hair but I didnt think it was that bad. everyone around me laughed and introduced their self, they were trying to figure out who the new person was in their town without being too pushy by asking me questions. then I asked about the woman clutching her purse and waving her wallet at me. I was told she just got that wallet and was proud of it and was waving it at people left and right. It had come from some place far away and from someone special. and here I thought they thought I had some disease or out to mug them

maybe next time you see someone staring at you, you can find a way to break the ice and introduce yourself. Sometimes people approach new neighbors and new towns people sometimes they just stand back and stare. it may be up to you to do the first contact thing with these people that were staring at you.