Do you think you could say exactly this to your therapist? And I also don't think this is necessarily manipulation. I really don't know anything about you and your therapist, but I think she is putting too much emphasis on you being manipulative, and it's starting to hurt the therapy process because now it seems you are scared to talk about things you need to talk about.
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Originally Posted by Red75
Yes, sorry, my post was a muddle. Didn't want to trigger anyone, also didn't want to suggest that something had happened...though it did... 
In my therapy, when I talk about stuff that happened when I was younger with a much older family friend, a couple of times my T has called me out for being manipulative (she does it v nicely!) because, basically, I know that what I'm saying happened is abusive, but I say that it's not. Now I'm so worried that by asking what is obviously a stupid question that I know the answer to (except I don't ) she will call me on it again, and I don't know if I can cope with that.
So maybe what I'm saying is, you're right, I have to be manipulative to get a need met, and that need is for someone to tell me the truth until I can hear it. But I feel so fragile about it, I can't cope with having to defend myself... |