It helps me tremendously to have shared certain details, because it's a release and I can have someone share the pain with me. I am explicit at times.

I think trauma-oriented therapists are extremely careful not to push clients to share, because the push, or feeling forced, can be retraumatizing- trauma work is a lot about letting clients be in charge, to counteract the loss of control during the trauma. So for us as clients, it can sometimes feel like maybe they do not want to hear, when that's not the case.

So the real issue for me is do you feel more in control and more relieved if you share, or better if you don't, and that should be your only concern in my mind. Because your therapist is trained and willing to listen to anything and it's all about doing what's most supportive for you.