T is a trauma oriented therapist and everything you wrote makes perfect sense, thank you. It does seem as though she doesn't want to hear but she also says she'll listen to whatever I want to tell her, but it's my time frame and she won't pry. In my mind that's conflicting and confusing to me and with my other 'stuff' I have to know which one is right because I don't want to pick the wrong one.

So the real issue for me is do you feel more in control and more relieved if you share, or better if you don't, and that should be your only concern in my mind. This is a good question for me to ponder. I don't know.