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Arwen_78 · Aug 20, 2015, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Komfortable

We became friends quickly. She has confided in me to the extent that when I look at where things are now and look back at our first week and how much she trusted me, it's very surprising. Knowing as much as I do about how guarded she is makes me wonder why she told me so many deep secrets initially.

I thought hard about this last night, and I think part of why she is so guarded could be because, honestly, we made a VERY deep connection immediately and I think it scared her to be so vulnerable. I watched her pull away, it was very evident.

Our interactions are strange. In person, when it's just the two of us, she is affectionate (which is not typical of her, according to her sister) and very happy. Daily, though, as we text back and forth, she is distant, cold, easily annoyed. More reason for me to let her initiate contact.

In the early days of my current relationship I had a bad problem with scared of hurting the guy I with now. I use to tell him things like "I don't deserve this", "I should break this off as I don't mind hurting myself but I don't want to hurt you" and the likes.

I had just gotten out of a 8 year marriage that when I look back I was verbally abused by my ex husband. The man didn't actually love me but at least he loved me enough to let me go. I don't want to go into the full story as it has nothing to do with the point.

The thing was I had two plans in my head at the time. Plan a) was that I would work my butt off for a few years. Once I got enough money I would return to the UK, my ex was from England. Plan b) was to have fun and see what else was out there.

I joined match.com and met my current BF. It was a fast connection once we met in person. Almost "love at first sight" but I wanted to do whatever I could to stop myself from jumping right in. In a month we saw ourselves as best friends, two months in I was living with him and now we have a little girl together. It was a rocky first few years, mostly on my part, but he stuck it out. I'm so lucky to have him and to have had a second chance to have a nice relationship.

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