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Originally Posted by StbGuy
Hi ladies!
I wanted to know if some of you experience similar things to what guys feel when considering someone of the opposite sex. Some of the things are from my own experiences and some things are also what I've come to understand are issues for guys in general.
When we see girls or think about a specific girl we like for example, sometimes we/I feel:
1.) Like we/I are/am not good enough for her. This is especially true if she is really attractive and beautiful, has a very good-looking body, and/or is really smart and highly successful (e.g. a businesswoman or a woman in some kind of powerful position)
2.) When I have determined I am not good enough for her, there is no point even going up to her or starting a conversation because I will be rejected, so I just walk on by.
3.) This girl smiled at me, I wonder if she's interested in me (we don't know each other, we just passed each other in a shop or somewhere).
4.) This girl smiled at me and said hello, I wonder if she is more interested than the girl who simply smiled at me before.
5.) This really hot girl, like the one in point 1 whom I thought was too good for me, smiled at me in the shop. This smiling must then not mean anything after all, it's just girls being their friendly selves, like they are with each other.
6.) This girl likes hugging me when she sees me, but she hugs her friends too, so that must mean she just likes hugging in general to express herself to others.
I just want to know if some of you ladies reading this also feel these kinds of things when you see guys.
Also, please share if you have other points too! That would be great. Please tell us (guys) the things you think when you see us walking and stuff, maybe smiling at you, similar to the way I wrote it here.
Do you also feel sometimes like it's not even worth approaching a really hot guy to get his attention because it will probably just lead to rejection?
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It is not for you to decide whether or not you are good enough for anyone. They get to make that decision for themselves when they see who you are and whether or not you can and want to meet their needs for dating or a relationship.
And, if they turn you down, so be it. It can't be personal, they don't know you. If you aren't their type, looks-wise or otherwise, that's not your fault or theirs. It's just the way it is. They can't make themselves like you anymore than you can make them like you. Guys go through the same thing -- they go up to a girl, she turns him down, he feels bad. But the truth is there's nothing to feel bad about, it is what it is . . .