I am the "sick one" in the relationship with my husband. It is like an unwritten contract. I don't know if he is aware that he has as many problems I have. What is interesting is that with the therapy I have had and the work I have done, I may actually be the healthier one now. My T says it is time to change that unwritten contract and that we should expect some resistance because it is easier for them to think of us as the sick ones, the troublesome ones.
Carrie