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Originally Posted by I'm Worth It
All we, you and I can do, is take it one day at a time, take care of ourselves, be understanding and a source of trust, stability, and security for them and for ourselves and let them take what they need as they are ready.
And, when I say, let them take what they need, that doesn't mean that they just take without giving either. We could very easily be walked on by these kinds of people as well. But, for sure, in the early days, you will be giving much more than they give you. At some point, you do need to ask for something from them. They don't get a free ride.
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It's hard for me to offer her any stability and security, as I am Bipolar and am pretty unstable myself. I doubt, I worry, I question, I'm impulsive, I withdraw when I'm depressed. Trust, however, I can offer her. Like I said earlier, I am here 100%, no judgement.
I have come to the realization that I will be giving much more than I get. It's a position I've never been in. I've always been on the receiving end of the relationship, so this will be a huge adjustment. For both of us. She has told me that she isn't used to being taken care of emotionally and that it will be difficult for her. I'm the type that opens doors and wants to care for a woman when she is in need. She is very independent, likely out if necessity.