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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
As somebody who has defenses more secure than the pentagon, I can tell you from experience that the best way to get her to open up to you would be to be patient with her and start off as friends for awhile before entering a relationship.
Also it would help to reassure her that you will accept her no matter what and that she shouldn't fear judgement from you. Don't just say it though, actually mean it and be ready to have an open mind and accept any fault she may confess to you in the future.
Finally, be kind, considerate, and love her unconditionally even if you all remain only friends.
If you aren't ready to stick it out with her long term and love her no matter what, then it would be best to quit while you're ahead.
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I'm ready for a fight, if she is. I'm not scared of her baggage, nor is she of mine. I just don't know if she is ready to out in the work to make this successful, of if she would rather cut and run and go back to the type of men she is used to. This is a fairly damaged individual (but aren't we all), but I love her and all her flaws.
How do I tell her "I'm willing to fight for this" without scaring her off? I sense that commitment this early is a real deal-breaker.