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Arwen_78 · Aug 20, 2015, 01:33 PM

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1.) Like we/I are/am not good enough for her. This is especially true if she is really attractive and beautiful, has a very good-looking body, and/or is really smart and highly successful (e.g. a businesswoman or a woman in some kind of powerful position)

I can say that I have felt this way at one time or another. I think it was mostly because I didn’t feel, think, that I could give him the emotional support he deserved. I’m not sure that I can now but I am here for him and try to be the one who is up when we’re both feeling down. I mean he was a shy 26 years old and I was his first girlfriend and I didn’t really know if I wanted to be his first heartbreak if it happened.

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2.) When I have determined I am not good enough for her, there is no point even going up to her or starting a conversation because I will be rejected, so I just walk on by.

Yes, I think women do! I was the kinda of girl to jump first then ask question, I was the one who usually asked guys out. Most of the time being rejected but I’m not sure if I ever knew how to truly deal with emotional side of things. In fact now that I’m being honest with myself I’m emotional stupid to others and sometime myself.

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3.) This girl smiled at me, I wonder if she's interested in me (we don't know each other, we just passed each other in a shop or somewhere).

Oh, all the time! Bad thing is I sometimes think they really do want more with me. So, I try not to see things like that. It’s a real problem as when I end up chatting with guys at a bar, not looking to be picked up, they get the wrong idea and I can’t tell when the friendly chat ended and they started flirting with me.

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4.) This girl smiled at me and said hello, I wonder if she is more interested than the girl who simply smiled at me before.

Same as before

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5.) This really hot girl, like the one in point 1 whom I thought was too good for me, smiled at me in the shop. This smiling must then not mean anything after all, it's just girls being their friendly selves, like they are with each other.

Part of this is true, you don’t know what “kind “of smile it is unless you start talking to them. I mean maybe they like you as in maybe he looks cool as in friend or it could be more. Yet, friendship should come first always!

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6.) This girl likes hugging me when she sees me, but she hugs her friends too, so that must mean she just likes hugging in general to express herself to others.

Here, I would ask her if she shares your feelings. I mean with smiles there is a difference in them. I’m not great as social queues but it’s another stupid thing about social rules that most of us miss.