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Originally Posted by nija43
Absolutely true.
My therapist has been using the word "controlling" and I was never really bothered by that concept. This past week she used the word "manipulating" and I got really angry that someone was actually trying to change me against my will, be it subtle or not.
Yes, I am having my strings pulled. But since I have let the other person do so for such a long time, I find it very difficult to make it stop.
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The first step is awareness. It's never a pleasant thought that what we have been doing wasn't our own idea. But maybe take a step back and ask yourself if you would have wanted to do those suggestions on your own free will. If not, you may need to ask yourself why were you convinced? Was it because it was something you were considering doing but needed an extra person's suggestion for?