I had an affair with a married man
for 14 years. He is a theologian/ evangelist
which I think made things worse...His profession
was getting in front of Christian audience and college
classrooms and preaching about God.

He had 3 kids.
I brainwashed myself into believing that after
his kids were grown, he would leave her.

Guess what?
He followed his oldest daughter off to college
to go teach and preach at her Christian school.
During her freshman yr of college his wife found out
about our affair. Next.. the Administration.
I thought for sure he would get fired, get divorced
and stay with me.

I found out a year later.. the reason why his
boss did not fire him:
Because his boss was caught having an affair, too.

My married boyfriend..is still married to his wife.

I have come to the conclusion that he married a dumb
blonde, got tired of her after 10 yrs of marriage,

and had an affair with me for the next 14 yrs.
That's right..not 14 months...14 yrs.
It is pretty easy to do when you work at the same
place...I.am a Professor.

I have also realized that people who are married
and cheat? They have no respect for themselves
or their partner.
Men compartmentalize. He put his wife in one
container, and me in another.
He kept us separate at all times.

Let him stay married to his wife.
Let them reap all the rewards of their toxic marriage.

My advice to you?
Exes are exes for a reason.
Leave this guy in the dust.