I love my spouse but he's hard to respect. He probably respects me but doesn't know how to show it. He was brought up in institutions. Plus landed in institutional life a second time of his own accord. He doesn't seem to know how to be a part of a family.I feel for him in this regard ;but I hate him trying to institutionalise me.Put this here! Do this ,this way.Don't do that like that, breathe this way, eat this way, always wipe the knife straight away. Don't leave the pegs on the line. Don't spend money on this or that.........I'll make a reply here....respect me please..understand that I'm a grown human being that can breathe any way I want to and can eat any old how I want to. ......he would say; well if you want to ruin your life..or if you want to wreck your teeth... if you don't want to listen to me then why bother talking to me...REPLY I do want to listen to you.I do listen to you but all I hear is .....orders...bossiness....as if you are trying to be in a higher position instead of being a part of us... ...... Im not worried he will ever read this because he doesnt believe in psychology..he believes people just need to get over things, think normal thoughts and so on.luv to me Jjulia