Well yeah, I am working to "get over it" and all the other much worse stuff that will never be spoken of. This is the thing, sometimes speaking just a few words about the years of abuse can set someone free to "move on". Or to be in the process of "healing". .. I posted this in the wrong forum probably. Thanks for replying

I do agree that some people "dwell" far too much on things which "should be put in the past and forgotten" but sometimes it's not so easy, I wish it was. Sometimes we might think we have "forgotten" it but the mind hasn't.