Hi Fuzzy

NO, you absolutely aren't the villain in this story!!
And, doesn't matter what they thought, I am sorry you went through that from them , but I'd say their opinion is basically worthless.........I know it may hurt a lot...........but remember.........their opinions..........worthless!!
Still, I think you may be seeing it that way for yourself at times as well
So try to cherish the person you are...........you are not the person they tried to convince you you were, and you never were!!
And hey, when things are hurting, we're here for you

Alison