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Originally Posted by Komfortable
And tonight happens.
A conversation between us. I am C, she is E. J is a guy she talks to sometimes and he was interested in her...or something. It's complicated.
"E: Are you telling people we are dating?
C: No (and I really am not)
E: Because J said someone told him today that we were.
C: I haven't said that.
E: J has a date tonight and I said with who, and he said 'it doesn't matter, you and C are dating anyway.' I said 'I haven't even seen C in a week.'"
It just felt like her response was "C? Ew, no"
So I asked her directly, do you have any interest in dating me. She said things have happened so fast and she needs time to process things with a clear head and not caught up in the moment. She did say "I haven't written you off, I want you to know that." WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN?! Maybe it's the lack of sleep, or the heavy work/school load, but I don't know what's going on here.
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This is what I tried to warn you about. You are going to need a ton of patience with her and for now you need to manage your emotions and expectations and simply just be her friend until she can get clear in her own head. You are going to get "non-committal"/unclear responses from her for quite some time.
Keep in light touch, don't ask her out. Wait a couple of weeks, ask her on a date. If she refuses, I'd cut bait here. If she can't even commit to
a date, there's a bigger issue than we even realize.