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Originally Posted by defeated11
I read a couple articles and the symptoms sure do fit in PMDD. I managed to brave through it yesterday, hopefully it'll be better today. The whole situation is getting the better of me, i find myself breaking down when i'm alone and i have no motivation, energy, or desire, to do anything. Not work, not anything else. How am i supposed to deal with all this when i myself am going through depression? I managed so far, but i feel its ripping me apart. Sometimes i just really, really want to lash out too, instead of just standing there while taking in all the rage and the insults. On one hand i'm affraid that i'll snap and on the other hand I almost wish I will. ... whatever. Its helpful just to put this out there, even if i'm pretty sure there will be no response.
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I think you may have to get some professional advice. Both of you may be basically good people but in a
bad situation @ the moment - you're on a time bomb
.
This is NOT sustainable, you are clearly straining from the 'load' of it. Sad thing is that without resolution, you may lose everything even though you may have potential to be happy
eventually.
i myself had come to the end of my rope. Things escalated very badly. I myself did not know how to find the energy to help myself. My spouse is
physically gone but still in the picture. Although the reality is depressing to me, I am using the 'me time' to just exhale & HEAL. Recover. I try to do things to distract myself from the reality.
I wish I could help more
You could:
- contact therapist to learn how to handle
- get some space for yourself, or
- plan o
n detaching or
being away when the issues arise (substitute that time w/ feel good stuff FOR YOU).
Take care of you - her situation is out of YOUR control anyway. It has to be medically treated. You cannot help her, yourself if you are not taking care of YOU.
"Time bomb" - now, go
do something for yourself!! 
Good luck
defeated -
victory will come.
profound
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oh ps:
I posted 'blah', below. "Vital" suggested the 'SNAP' technique
http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...3191-blah.html
I am trying:
- 'SNAP'
- SPACE from my toxic experiences (from spouse)
- distracting myself w/ other activities, NEW experiences This is important to replace all the toxic emotions. Create new thinking habits
- affirmations