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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
No I don't think you're weirder than me and I appreciate your support.
I agree that we sometimes need others in life because humans are social creatures by nature unfortunately. When I need somebody though, I like to have something to offer them in return for their help so that I seem strong and competent. If I'm in a position to where I need somebody but don't have much to offer in return, I tend to go out of my way to try to get out of my problem on my own which has gotten me into trouble and a decent amount of debt.
To me, there is nothing worse than being completely at the mercy of another person. Being completely dependent on another person without having something to give them in return is like asking to be hurt.
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There is so much truth in that! I really don't even like to look at the word "Help". It bothers me to think someone is sacrificing something for me when I cannot reciprocate entirely.
Who knows why that is. I am sure there is some theory or methodology that could justify or explain that mindset. I know it isn't healthy and that we do need to sometimes rely on others. I went through a divorce a few years ago and was incredibly overwhelmed with the changes. Asking for help and admitting I couldn't do it on my own was very difficult. Even now, I have a lot of debt that I was 'awarded' in the divorce and it is difficult to have to admit I can't afford things I used to be able to. But, it is my motivation to become strong and independent. My fiance offers to help me, but again-- I don't like that "help" word. I don't want him to start looking at me as a burden instead of an equal partner. Y'know? Sorry I don't mean to overtake your thread!!!!
Just refreshing to have someone that can relate, even on the most basic level, to what I'm saying.