There is so much truth in that! I really don't even like to look at the word "Help". It bothers me to think someone is sacrificing something for me when I cannot reciprocate entirely.

Who knows why that is. I am sure there is some theory or methodology that could justify or explain that mindset. I know it isn't healthy and that we do need to sometimes rely on others. I went through a divorce a few years ago and was incredibly overwhelmed with the changes. Asking for help and admitting I couldn't do it on my own was very difficult. Even now, I have a lot of debt that I was 'awarded' in the divorce and it is difficult to have to admit I can't afford things I used to be able to. But, it is my motivation to become strong and independent. My fiance offers to help me, but again-- I don't like that "help" word. I don't want him to start looking at me as a burden instead of an equal partner. Y'know? Sorry I don't mean to overtake your thread!!!! Just refreshing to have someone that can relate, even on the most basic level, to what I'm saying.