when people tell me this I thank them then remind them that we dont live in a time where a person can just automatically trust people like say back in the 60's and 70's where it was common for people to accept each other with our homes, lives and kids.

we live in the era of the after math of 9\11, homelessness, abuse and crime is daily reported. we live with internet stalking, stolen identity, school shootings, bullying ...everywhere you look read and watch theres something negative going on.

all this causes even normal people to not just automatically walk up to someone and share their life stories, problems, family and life styles with them. It is now perfectly natural for human beings to go according to the saying....trust is not a given its earned.

I take it as a compliment when someone tells me they see I make people jump through hoops to earn my trust. that tells me I have my priorities, boundaries and self respect right where it should be....doing whats best for me and my family and following good safety rules for myself and my family.

its ok fuzzy to be guarded with yourself, your story and your life. its normal