(((((((((((((((fuzzy)))))))))))))))),

I tried to respond earlier, but my internet was down for communicating..read only I guess at the time....

I know how hard relationships can be, but I just had an incident that made me realize just what I need to do to take care of myself in situations. The one thing I realize is that first of all & most important is to know where your boundaries are & what you are comfortable with. Once you are knowledgable about your own feelings, then it is easier to draw all the lines around yourself & set up walls just high enough for each situation.....but analzying the situation first is the most important step. I know somethimes things happen too fast & we are forced to make quick decisions about a situation, but I think putting on the breaks & analyzing the situation first is most important.

Looking back at the situation with the home care person who pulled the ID theft on my mother, I learned quite a bit about gut feelings & listening to my internal voice warnings. I also just had an experience with my new neighbor here in Kentucky. He is what he calls "a little agressive". I could have been pushed into a situation that I didn't want to be in, but the word "NO!!!!!!!" is the most important word in my vocabulary. I can always rethink something over time, but if I am initially pushed into something I don't want to be in, then I am always going to be sorry.

Knowing yourself & your boundaries & then letting others know the same, has become my rule to live by.......so far, this method hasn't failed me in my new life here.

Hope maybe a few things here might help with your situation.....I know relationships are tough,
Debbie