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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
If she asks in the hallway, I'll say "good", "fine", "okay", or "wonderful" sarcastically. I've already asked her whether it's a serious question or small talk in the hallway, and she said small talk. And she does know that if I say "wonderful" it's sarcastic (because I'll probably never feel wonderful).
When we get in the room, I'll say the truth either vague or descriptively. Might be something simple as "I'm struggling" or "not good". Or it could lead directly into a specific problem.
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This sounds like how I am. My marriage counselor often asks in the hall, and I'm usually like, "Good! You?" no matter how I am. If I'm actually like, "I'm OK," then it's probably a sign that something's really wrong. In the office, he tends to ask it of me and H as a way to start the conversation and find out what's on our minds/how the past week has been. And I'll look pointedly at my H, to see if there's anything he wants to bring up. Sometimes I'll bring something up. If not, sometimes it's just sort of like, "It's been a pretty good week," followed by some crickets chirping. Then MC will ask what we want to talk about or else make some other small talk or joke around until we're really talking.
T doesn't usually ask till we're in her office. With her, I tend to respond with "Tired" (which tends to be true lately) or "I'm doing OK." I feel like I rarely actually say "Good!" Partly because I feel like she could probably see right through me if I said that! I usually just start talking about stuff after that.