Agree with what Sophiesmom said earlier in the thread - I think its sad that we tend to use the word rape in this kind of thing. I've had fantasies of being raped, and wondering what its like raping a woman. But its not actually rape, because in both cases its actually me or a girl pretending to not want sex, but actually being turned on by it

The thing that turns me on is the being turnred on by something taboo. I dont have real rape fantasies at all, and any woman I'd like to rape (pretending to be a man, or with a ehm strap on!) is completely arounsed and pretending to resist.

I'm pretty sure that most women who have these kind of fantasies feel the same way and its a real shame there isn't another word for that kind of thing, because rape fantasy doesn't cover it.