Thanks guys! I think my lack of success has resulted over the years from a mixture of bad advice, bad life circumstances that just found me somehow, my toxic relationship with my dad and emotional deprivation as a child (which I think has made me quite a sick and depraved individual).

I was led to believe relationships and sex were the same thing. I thought you pick up women in a bar, in the shop, etc. I believed if you were friends with a woman, then that's the only place it will stay.

So, sure, there was "evidence" to support this, but I didn't look at it in it's entirety. Guys were picking up girls in bars or in the shops, girls they didn't know, but what I forgot was that girls can be slutty too, and of course they would not be interested in a guy like me who wants something more special, they want sex, and so of course physical attraction will be on top of the list there (guys with muscular bodies basically).

I had to shift the idea of me being "wrong" to those two individuals simply being shallow and lustful (the guy and the girl that hookup).

The other thing was to realize that I didn't notice if girls liked me, and here I really think the autistic thing comes into it, in the sense of I don't notice anything emotional/feeling wise/body language from people. So, maybe girls were trying to show me, and I didn't notice.

So, yes, the "doing other stuff and not thinking about relationships and then it simply happens when you're not looking" theory works, but for normal sort of people who then can still notice it at the crucial moment. When I'm busy with my work, I'm too immersed in it to notice anything else. There was a girl at church who I think perhaps liked me, thinking back now, but at that moment I would never have thought so. I've been researching body language, etc. of ladies when they do like you, and I must say, I can actually recall girls in high school doing the things mentioned (staring at my lips when I talk, etc.). Never even caught my eye at the time. Girls coming up to me and introducing themselves, didn't even ring any sort of bell with me. Maybe I deserve to be alone now for being so stupid. I've surely created enough "bad karma". Maybe some female force of the universe is angry with me.

Let's face it, I've probably humiliated all those girls by not noticing them. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Oh well, I'm screwed then I guess.