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Originally Posted by StbGuy
Hi DIMF, I've also wondered excessively about my future children, where they will go to school one day.
School broke me. It ruined me, no other way of describing it. I was odd but perfectly OK before school.
I don't want to deny them any proper social development either though. I don't want them to be unprepared either, because those kids in the public school, even the bullies, will be growing up the same rate as my kids, so one day they might meet as adults. My parents sheltered me when I was a kid and it didn't quite do me good, it left me unprepared.
This is so hard.
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That's why I wouldn't shelter them but at the same time, I would teach them to be strong and independent and to think for themselves and always question authority.
That's also where the martial arts classes started at a young age (say 6 or 7 years old) would come into play. By the time they get to the age to where bullying is a serious issue, they would be stronger than most of the other kids, therefore, potential bullies wouldn't stand a chance. Considering that bullies tend to prey on the weaker kids, I think hardening children at a young age in a way similar to what I described would be far more effective at "sheltering" them than trying to shield them from danger myself ever would be.
It's a good thing that I don't want children until I'm well off financially without having to work more than 30-40 hours a week and I have a girlfriend that I've been with for several years because I would feel trapped and suffocated in a relationship with children where I also had to work a lot and not have my alone time.