Meds don't help for shyt if u don't bother to learn how to cope with BPD.


Meds don't cure your *****ed up thought patterns and perceptions, and even if they manage to take the edge off, they certainly don't stop your bullshyt from spilling over and affecting your loved ones..


So if she's unwilling to get an actual grip, by learning about her disorder, and seeking therapy to acquire coping skills, then I think walking away is the smart, sane healthy thing to do.


I was medicated (for BP) yet not in therapy during those times I put my bf thru hell, which was really unfair toward him. He too walked away in order to save himself, because I was drowning him.


Lucky for us we eventually figured out what (else) was wrong with me and I've worked my butt off to fight my BPD behaviours, and our relationship has gone from strength to strength since reconciling.


Choosing to salvage your mental health is a good decision. It doesn't make you a bad or judgmental person. It makes you smart, it means you value yourself.